Disclaimer: The statements in this blog in no way reflect the ideas or personal thoughts of the author.
WHY CHEAT
Lately I have been browsing various men and women’s magazine, blogs and the like and cheating is a hot topic. They discuss everything from the signs to know your partner is cheating, they provide a clear definition of what cheating is and even go as far as to give relationship advice and solutions for couples dealing with this matter.
What is cheating, just to be clear? Simply put, if your partner would be mad at your interaction with the opposite sex or same sex for that matter than you my friend are cheating. SO WHAT; cheating has become just as American as Apple Pie! Think about how many couples you know where both parties are being faithful to one another. Maybe you don’t know all their business but there’s a strong likelihood that someone is dipping out.
What causes someone to cheat in the first place; sexual frustration, fear of commitment and lastly a new one, “trying to save the relationship“? We’ve all heard about the men/women who suck, or the selfish boyfriend/ girlfriend who only seems to put their needs first. Commitment, usually we guys wear this hat but surprisingly there are many ladies, working gals who are so pressed to be Miss Independent that they too can not commit to a relationship because it takes up to much time. But what is this new phenomenon? Can CHEATING CAN HELP YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
So for arguments sake lets just say you’re in a relationship and you find one of the first two scenarios to be what’s wrong in your relationship. Well, why not cheat, I mean you’re not married right? See the underlying issue here is the person’s appreciation of you or lack thereof. People take there significant others for granted all the time. Of course they mouth the words, but their actions are something different.
If you find your relationship in the dumps, as a last resort to save the relationship than you should revert to one of my more recent blogs where you will find “baby girl”. Yes baby girl is not wifey but she is the next best thing. She takes you away from wifey, so by spending more time and occasional nights with baby girl or baby boy you are spending less time with your main person who is not appreciating you and taking you for granted. ?
Now this could go one of two ways, your significant other may begin to miss all the attention that you used to shower them with and start to look at themselves in the mirror, start to question themselves and see the error in their ways. This may prompt he or she to start “showing” how much they love you rather than just “talking” about loving you and help to create a better relationship. Or the person will still show you that “their really just not that into you” and you’ll end up breaking up and you can transition baby girl/ boy into their new spot of significant other. ?
Please only try this after you have had many conversations that have gone ignored and you are truly sick of your significant other. ?
Disclaimer: Once again these comments and or statements do not reflect the ideas of the author; they reflect the persons I have spoken to in the past few weeks. Ladies and Gentlemen please do not find yourself sleeping with to many baby girls and baby boys because then you will be violating the post about how many is too many!
When people cheat, more often than not it is because they settled. And that is a crime in itself.
p.s. i have a healthy fear of settling.
And yes, cheating can help your relationship. Take note: It can help you end it!
I like that, a healthy fear of settling. We should all be so blessed to have such a fear!
Cedric D. Shine
People who cheat are lacking in character… And there is no other reason and anyone making excuses for oneexcuse for some who lacks integrity I would question their character as well. Men need to stop patting each other on the back for that nonsense. Cheating can't save a relationship.. what a idiotic statement.
Idiotic though, there was humor and sarcasm painted all through this and in fact cheating has saved many relationships.
Also to say that men men hi five each other or pat each other on the back places the cheating game all on men when women are some of the biggest cheaters we know.
Let me find out you're a little sexist!
Cedric D. Shine
Well I don't think cheating is humorist… when people CHEAT they are not only cheating they are practicing lies, deceit, manipulation and putting another person life and health at risk.. and note I said people who cheat,– people includes men and women. I'm not sexist but I think you might be a little luke warm as far as being sexist is concern, considering the number of passes you give in regard to the "ways of men" and I hope you don't take that as attacking or an insult.